Thank you for this question! TBH I think it's incredibly wonderful to be asked this, since I so often see professional women asked about how they balance motherhood and their career and NO ONE EVER ASKS DUDES THE SAME QUESTION AS IF THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT.
Haha, that said, I'm not sure I have good advice! We are still trying to figure it out. Every cliche I heard about parenting turned out to be true, of course, including the sleep deprivation and constant out-of-body grogginess. That said, my wife has been really really good about setting boundaries. She almost never brings work home and doesn't check work email in the evenings or weekends and that I think helps give her mental and emotional energy to be present with our daughter. (She's also incredibly smart and competent and just GETS IT DONE when she's in the office...though to be honest she also just deals with having a lot of stress about work that she's not getting ahead of.)
I haven't been able to set that kind of boundary for myself, in part because so much of my work is done at home, but I do try to never have the computer on when our daughter is awake and I really try to limit my time with my phone.
As for cooking, I try to do the thing where you prep a lot of basics on a Sunday afternoon and have them to mix and match and make simple meals through the week. I'll cook a pot of beans, or some grains, roast a bunch of vegetables, make sauces or salsas, and so dinner could be roasted mushroom tacos one night, a bowl of grains with buttermilk dressing, broccoli, and scrambled eggs another night, etc. The microwave, which I literally would not touch between the ages of 22-35, gets a lot of work these days!
Thanks for this question, and best wishes for you and your husband and your children-to-be!
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